How to tie up a girl in bed: Bondage and shibari for beginners

If you want to try something new in your sex life, then we recommend that you try bondage. The idea of tying up a partner during sex excites not only men, but also women. Therefore, bondage and shibari are a great way to enjoy your fantasies. Bondage-type games in bed help you feel and understand your partner better, which leads to even greater intimacy and greater trust. You can change roles, try different shibari tying techniques, try different tying forces, use different fixation items and much more. Tying up is not always "hardcore", such slavery simulation sex can be very gentle and erotic, depending on your mood and preferences. But the fact that it increases the degree of passion and eroticism is still undoubted. Of course, in order for the bondage process to go smoothly and give maximum pleasure, you need to know how to properly tie up your partner and follow safety precautions.

What is bondage?

In the last article we examined BDSM in detail, and talked about the fact that bondage is one of the foundations of the BDSM subculture, since the first letter, B, in the BDSM abbreviation means "bondage". If it comes to the concept itself, then bondage is a form of BDSM in which one partner ties the other up in different sexual poses, thereby limiting his mobility. For beginners, simplified variations are available. At first, you should not complicate things with different knots (if we are talking about shibari) and poses. This process can be as simple or as complicated as you want. The main joy during bondage comes from a complete sense of power over your partner. In order for the game to bring joy to all partners, it is necessary, first of all, to discuss all the details of the upcoming BDSM session.

Bondage types for beginners

There are more than 10 types of bondage that partners can use during BDSM. It all depends on the accessories and materials that you use to tie your partner up with. For beginners, the following types of BDSM bondage would be suitable:

• Steel bondage. Steel accessories (e.g. handcuffs) are used to limit mobility
• Belt bondage. Tying up the partner with a belt. P.S. it is better to use special bondage belts to avoid unpleasant sensations and pain.
• Rope bondage. Special ropes are used to restrain your partner.

Never use adhesive tape, film or garden ropes during bondage. It can burn the skin and cause significant harm to the body.

What kind of restraints to use in the first bondage session?

If this is your first bondage experience, then it is better to use handcuffs, special fastening tapes, collars and, of course, ropes. But be extremely careful and try not to apply too much force.

Bondage safety rules

Decide on a stop word. First of all, you need to decide what stop word to use during bondage. It is desirable that it was not associated with sex - for example, "car", "dog" or just "enough". This word should be used in extreme cases - if a woman is in a panic or can no longer tolerate pain.

Carefully monitor your partner's condition. Always keep an eye on how your partner feels and keep an eye on their condition. If you see that bruises and redness begin to appear on the skin, it is better to stop or reduce the intensity. If the partner has obvious signs of discomfort and pain, all actions should be stopped immediately.

Do not tie in the neck area. Do not tie ropes in the neck area. Incorrectly tightened knots can lead to strangulation. There are special straps for necks that can be purchased at any sex store.

Do not tie tight knots in places where it can interfere with blood circulation. Ropes and belts should not squeeze a woman's chest, abdomen, veins, joints and nerve endings. Limiting the mobility of the partner by tying should not interfere with blood circulation, but at the same time it should be quite tangible. Therefore, we recommend leaving a gap between the body and the rope of about two fingers wide. Also avoid those places where moles or papillomas are located.

Tying in bed should not exceed 30 minutes. The duration of the tied down state, ideally, is 30 minutes. If the "slave" is fixed in an awkward position, this time should be further reduced.

Do not leave your partner unattended while he is tied up. You should always be nearby if something goes wrong. Therefore, never forget about the girl (or man) who is tied up in bed.

Keep a pair of scissors nearby. You should always have scissors at hand, for cases when you need to urgently cut a rope or tape. Also, do not hide the handcuff key somewhere far away. It is also recommended to place a first-aid kit nearby.

Attention! Bondage is not recommended for people with these kinds of health problems - low or high blood pressure, a tendency for panic attacks or with circulatory disorders in the body.

How to practice Bondage: step by step instructions

Bondage is a great way to give a woman a lot of emotions. These kinds of sex games are perfect for those who love diversity in bed and are not afraid to experiment. The ability of partners to feel each other is a key condition for a safe BDSM experience. An increase in sensitivity and the ability to make orgasms more intense is a nice bonus for lovers of unusual intimacy.

It is recommended to start bondage with foreplay. We are not talking about experienced BDSM practitioners, but about those who are only trying to use bondage methods for the first time. Partners can take a shower or bath together, give each other a massage, kiss and caress each other's bodies. If the dominant wants to surprise his partner by offering handcuffs or tying her body up in an unexpected moment, it is necessary to relax and arouse her so much that she herself wants to give herself completely to her man.

After light caresses, you should move on to more active activities that cause a passionate desire for intimacy. A man can give his partner pleasant feelings with his tongue, from which she will soar through the sky of sensual pleasure (of course, if the posture in which the partner is tied down allows you to caress the genitals unhindered). Of course, the tongue can get tired quickly, but sex toys allow you to stimulate erogenous zones for as long as you want. It is best to use a clitoral stimulator or vibrator. Some people prefer to use vibrating eggs, which are inserted into the vagina and give the woman a sea of sweet sensations.

Next, it's time for bondage. After the previous actions, you will need to tie up your partner's hands behind their back, in handcuffs or using ropes. If the girl does not resist, and her body is elastic and ready for intense caresses, handcuffs can be attached to the head of your bed, and the girl can be laid down on her stomach. For the convenience of the dominant, it is desirable to fix the legs in a static position with the help of special leggings.

The ways of tying down your partner can be different, depending on the imagination of the man and the flexibility of his girlfriend. Erotic version - the dominant one puts handcuffs and greaves on his partner and connects them with each other. The woman falls into a helpless state, and all her intimate body parts are fully accessible to her partner. If a girl has put on a mask over her eyes and a collar around her neck then, the sensations of both partners will become even more intense. Blindfolded sex allows you to plunge into the abyss of passion, giving a man pleasure from the full power he has over his partner.

BDSM bondage and erotic games for beginners

You can caress your partner in any way convenient for you, but it is advisable to use the stimulation that she likes (unless, of course, the girl herself asks for humiliation and discomfort). A vibrating sex toy should be attached to the clitoris, but make sure that you do not do this too early. The longer you keep a woman in a pre-orgasmic state, the brighter and longer the orgasm itself will be. In addition, the dominant, watching the "slave" burning with desire, will be able to experience psychological satisfaction from her "torment".

One clitoral stimulator will definitely not be enough if partners want to get maximum erotic bliss. Bondage allows you to access any sensitive point of a woman's body. The genitals are not the only place where a woman can feel pleasure from. You can attach pegs or a vibrating ball to the nipples, as well as massage the lower abdomen and thighs with your hands.

The easiest way to give a woman pleasant feelings is using a vibrator. When using a sex toy, place it on the G-spot, which is located on the front wall of the vagina. This can also be done with your fingers, but it requires more effort. From exposure to the vibrations on the G-spot, a powerful orgasm can occur. If the dominant does not want the "slave" to finish until he enters her he should be careful not to stimulate the sensitive points too much.

You can stimulate not only the vagina and clitoris, but also the anus. For anal stimulation, special sex toys in the form of a cork or falus are available. There are curved and ribbed models. For the first time it is recommended to use smaller models. Carefully insert the toy in the anus, using a large amount of lubricant. Anal sex is ideal for BDSM games because it gives a man the feeling of absolute power over his partner, especially when bondage is used. The butt plug can be left inside so that vaginal sex causes even more pleasant sensations - the vagina will become much narrower.

Having played with the "slave" long enough and given her a lot of fantastic feelings, the dominant can think of himself. Oral sex with a tied-up woman is great entertainment for a sado-maso lover. You can enter the mouth of the "slave" as deep as you want, forcing her to tolerate the sensations. Often, adherents of BDSM use mouth expanders that open the mouth of the "slave" and allow the "master" to enjoy oral sex for a long time.

During one session, the dominant can change the position of his girlfriend several times using ropes and handcuffs. Changing positions will allow a woman to feel a diverse range of emotions. At the end of the erotic game, if the partners have not yet finished, you can finally plunge into the waves of sexual ecstasy. It does not matter whether it is vaginal or anal, the main thing is that the man does not forget who dominates here, so as not to spoil the impression of bondage sex.